According to my PIES Approach, the second distinction between introverts and extroverts  is our preferences for interacting with others.

Both introverts and extroverts enjoy people yet differ on the “who” and “how”. Introverts enjoy smaller groups and one-on-one conversation. We much prefer to spend time with people we already know and are comfortable with. When we go to events or meetings we will gravitate towards the people with which we have already built a connection.  Extroverts are more inclined to welcome the newcomer and approach people they don’t know.  Introverts are not keen on small talk and strive for meaningful conversation.  We tend to listen more in the conversation than speak (unless you get us on a roll about a new idea we are excited about and we can talk your ear off).  Introverts often prefer to stay home with a good book or with a partner rather than attend a large party or event.  This is our version of fun!

I remember one birthday when I was so excited to have an intimate dinner with my mom and dad but my mom had planned a large surprise birthday party instead. My heart sank further with each new person who arrived, many whom I didn’t even know well. It was the exact opposite of what I needed to feel connected and celebrated (and of course she had no clue about this).  This year for my birthday  my partner, daughter and I enjoyed a bike ride along Lake Champlain in Vermont and watched the sunset.  YUM!!!!!