So here is another classic relationship dynamic.  Extrovert is talking to introvert – proposing a new idea, presenting information, asking for something.  Introvert is taking it in – processing the information.  Extrovert waits a moment or two then is exasperated that introvert hasn’t responded.  S/he may feel dissed and says something to that effect.  Introvert is flummoxed (internally of course) because s/he is simply thinking and needs time to think.  Introvert now feels defensive or misunderstood.  Sound familiar?

How many times have I found myself in this dance? Here’s what I did to change it:

1) I educated my loved ones about the brain research that shows introverts take a longer pathway to process information so give us time (and let go of all the interpretations).

2) I now often say out loud “I hear you.  I am processing what you are saying.”

The old dynamic is broken.  Everyone is happy. Yay!