A key distinction between introverts and extroverts is that introverts’ energy and attention tends to focus inward and extroverts’ energy and attention tends to focus outward. How does this play out in relationships? Extroverts are more likely to put the responsibility for problems and issues onto external conditions and other people (outward focus) and introverts are more likely to take the responsibility on (inward focus). So the result often is that introverts are blamed and take the blame – while extroverts point the finger.  Hmm . . . dangerous dynamic for both introverts and extroverts!  Of course these are “tendencies” and there are many examples when this is NOT the case. Yet the trend in this direction exists.
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